Tell us about your work as a life coach.
Currently, I have the best job in the world!
I am contracting with the Life Coach School as an instructor for the Coach Certification Program and I’m also as a mentor coach for coaches.
What is your current impossible goal?
Making $300k in 2021. I am almost there, as I made $250k in the last 12 months.
I think it is important to note that the first money goal I ever set for myself, was in 2020 at the age of 70. The goal was to make $100k in 2020.
As a retired teacher of 30 years, my income at its highest level was $63k.
I never believed that I could or that I cared to make more money as I was already collecting a pension and at 70 and I would be starting to take my social security. Then one day I questioned my own thinking and began asking myself some empowering questions:
“What if it would be so fun to be 70 years old and make more money than I ever have in my life?”
“What if I made retirement mean anything I wanted it to?”
“What if I just made up my own rules about what was possible for me?”
Why are you a life coach?
It is hard for me to believe that I trained to be a coach exactly 10 years ago when I was 61. A few years before that, I was fortunate enough to be coached by Brooke over the phone on someone else’s class, she was a guest “life coach.” This was back before anyone knew what a life coach was. They asked if anyone wanted to be coached and I volunteered. I was trying to decide when to retire from teaching and was very scared of my future. She coached me for about 10 minutes and afterwards my thoughts were; “What just happened? I want more of that and I want to learn how to do that!”
I can honestly say, I have never looked back from making the decision to train to be a coach. In addition to being a school teacher, I also taught yoga and mindfulness meditation. Coaching dovetailed in beautifully with all that I was teaching about awareness, compassion and attention. I learned how to coach myself and my life changed in so many ways, the most noticeable being that as I was aging I was literally becoming more youthful. I was learning how I alone was the creator of my own life experience through my optional thoughts.
I feel so blessed to have shown up and said yes. Now I love to show others what is possible for them too. We are always practicing something in our lives, and when you choose what to practice on purpose….that is when the magic happens.
What was your most recent a ha moment in your self coaching?
For me it is in learning the power of envisioning and connecting to my future self.
When I made the money goal of $100k, I practiced everyday being that person. I became that person. I didn’t just think it one or two times, but rather I PRACTICED seeing her, being her, feeling her, knowing her. I became her before the goal was met, so that when I crossed that $100k line, I was surprised that I wasn’t more excited.
I realized, I had already become her, in my mind; it had already happened. It wasn’t the being there in the end that was so extraordinary, it was who I became on the way to getting there that was so fantastic. It was the mountain I climbed over and over again, even when my mind told me I couldn’t (over and over again).
We can look forward or backward, but what we can’t do is look backward while moving forward!
What roadblocks have you encountered?
Roadblock are my mind offering me these thoughts: “You are too old Janet. It is time for you to settle down and enjoy life, Relax, do nothing.” It is like it wants to lull me to sleep. I am very clear now that life is too precious for me to do anything that I don’t want to be doing.
I have a practice of asking myself everyday, several times a day, if I am enjoying what I am doing, if it is what I want to be doing? Even if that means picking up balls off the ground because I am learning how to juggle, or showing up on my computer because I have a coaching call or a class. And the answer has been yes.
When I am listening to my roadblock mind lulling me to look at “what is wrong, what I am missing,” I almost miss out on what is right in front of me; an amazing life that I have created each day. The glorious people I get to coach and teach each day. The times in the day that I schedule absolutely nothing so I can sit in the sun, feel the breeze, walk in the fresh air, write in my journal.
When I give the “something wrong” voice keys to the car, I never end up where I want to go!
What is your self coaching practice?
I have had a practice for many years of meditation, breathing, stretching and for the last 10 years, have added self coaching. I do thought downloads and then pick a few thoughts to really look at and do a few models.
This is what I have to say about a self coaching practice. It would be impossible to do this practice if I was going to judge myself for the thoughts that I find in my head.
I don’t believe I am my thoughts. I witness my thoughts as though they pass in front of me on a screen. I believe strongly in being both curious and compassionate with what I notice about my own thoughts and where they lead me. If I judged any of it, I would shut down and stop looking and practicing.
Curiosity and compassion always open me up, and in the opening so much is revealed. I love being my own mentor, arm wrapped around myself, willing to see it all and trusting that nothing has gone wrong, I am just a fellow human with a crazy human brain, it doesn’t mean anything about my worth.
Stepping out of the cage of judgement and opening to life is where I want to spend my time.
How do you exemplify and live by the LCS value Be Inclusive?
I believe that the more inclusive I am with myself, the more I practice that beautiful skill on me, the more inclusive I am with all of humanity.
I love that it is a value of the LCS. I want to work for and with people who have this as a core value.
I am learning about what I don’t know about other’s life experiences; and once again, curiosity, compassion, willingness and openness are what help me on that journey.
What would you tell other coaches who are struggling to get to where you are today?
Giving up on yourself is always a choice. I’m just not willing to make that choice anymore. One way of giving up on yourself is by comparing yourself to others and believing the story in your head that makes you feel so inferior or inadequate.
So many new coaches or people considering changing careers or going after what they say they want, think that the other people who have done it are just special snowflakes, they were born that way, it was easy for them.
That is simply not the truth. None of it has been “easy” for me. I have had to manage my mind every step of every mountain I choose to climb.
When you see me teaching a class for the first X amount of times, looking so calm and centered, what you don’t see are my knees knocking under my desk. When I am asked to do a new role or I decide to put myself out into the world in some new way, I may look once again, so calm and sure, and what you don’t see or hear is my brain offering me all the thoughts of complete terror and fear.
I remember years ago when a book was written, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, and I thought, what a weird title, why would anyone want to feel fear and then do something; shouldn’t we want to run from fear? That sounds too scary.
Well, I’m going to let you in on a secret, I was afraid to write this whole coach spotlight. Before I connected with the largeness within me, I was only seeing what I thought I was lacking, and that person could not have even turned the computer on to answer the questions!
Since this is the last line I am writing, I will tell you that at this moment I feel: AMAZING!!!
I wrote this even though my brain was trying to convince me I couldn’t.
This is the power of coaching and this is what I want to be doing for the rest of my life; poking holes at all those beliefs about my own limitations.
And that is what I hope for all of you reading this. It’s hard to live an abundant laughter/love filled life from a place of smallness and fear. The world awaits our brilliance.
When we shine we invite the whole world to shine and I don’t know about you, but I believe the world could use all the brightness it can get!